For years I believed the stories people tell about aging, the decline, the loss, the limits. I even tried to list them all once… and realized not a single one was true! What’s a belief you carried with you for too long, only to discover it was never real, and maybe even kept you from growing or being happy? Life after 60 can be vibrant, meaningful, and deeply fulfilling. If you’d like to reflect more, watch my TEDx Talk 🎤 #agefreely #impermanence #embraceyourage #proaging #aging #innerfreedom #beliefs #lifeafter60

As the seasons change and fall settles in, it’s a reminder that connection matters most. 🍂 Take a break from the chaos for a moment, and gather your people for Older—the card game that turns conversations into something meaningful. 💛 🗣️ “This game is about so much more than aging. As we played, it became about intimacy, compassion, and appreciation.” #agefreely #agingwithattitude #embraceyourage #aging #meaningful #innerfreedom

The Dynamic Dance of Aging: What fuels my passion is the dynamic interplay between decline and expansion that characterizes aging. My research and personal reflections have shown that the true “goodies” of aging often emerge through the very process of decline. This natural evolution, when approached with awareness, transforms fear into awe, reshaping our mindset and experiences around aging and dying. #aging #agingwithattitude #impermanence #embraceyourage #innerfreedom #agefreely

We’re all swimming in ageism 🏊‍♀️ ‘I feel 35, not 75’ → but this is what 75 feels like. Vitality isn’t reserved for youth, it belongs to every age! #agefreely #proaging #agepositive #impermanence #innerfreedom #vitality #tedx #tedxtalks #tedxspeaker

They say we’re too old to be passionate… I say the opposite. When we are passionate about something, we naturally want to share it. Being on a podcast lets me explore all the ways we can age freely, with conversations that are both deep and fun 🎙️ What are you passionate about sharing? ➡️ Find out more: https://agefreely.com/speaker/ #agefreely #embraceyourage #aging #innerfreedom #podcastlife #podcast🎧 #tedxspeaker #tedxtalks

🌸 What’s one “aging story” you were told that turned out to be total crap? 👀 I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let’s learn from each other! 💬 #aging #embraceyourage #agepositive #proaging #innerfreedom #beyourself #agefreely

✨ Aging perk unlocked: arm wings! Who knew wisdom came with bonus features? Show me your wings! 👉 Full talk — link in bio #agefreely #agepositive #proaging #impermanence #agingwithattitude #tedx #tedxspeaker

When we’re young, everyone is curious about our future: What do you want to be? What are your dreams? What’s important to you? But once we turn sixty, those questions seem to disappear. Isn’t it ironic? Life gets shorter, yet curiosity about our passions and aspirations fades away. ✨ What if we asked older adults the same questions again? What excites you now? How do you want to spend your time? What do you still long to experience? That simple shift could transform ageism — moving from the belief that the best years are behind us to celebrating experience, wisdom, and possibility. This is exactly what Older invites us to explore. More than just a game about aging, Older: A Renewable Life, is a conversational card game that opens the door to intimacy, compassion, and appreciation. It sparks meaningful dialogue, encourages reflection, and helps us connect more deeply — not just with others, but with ourselves. 🌱 It’s more than a game. It’s an invitation to be curious about aging, to share stories, to listen, and to rediscover what truly matters in the later chapters of life. 👉 Ready to experience it for yourself? Find Older now on Amazon, link in bio! #agepositive #proaging #impermanence #agefreely #innerfreedom #embraceyourage #agingwithattitude #cardgame

“I made the perfect choice yesterday to attend my session with Kat Miller. I was able to order my thoughts with the perfect application of her talent for zeroing-in on bullshit and calling it out. That she also does it with compassion indicates that, back when young Kat was sorting out her vocation, she experienced a rare blessing as she packed up her toolkit.” Margaret Larson- Client Reading this testimonial, I feel such joy — not only in making a difference, but in witnessing the courage it takes for someone to step into their truer self 🌺 #embraceyourage #agefreely #agingwithattitude #agepositive #innerfreedom #innerpeace

If your over 60 and inspiration, curiosity and gratitude are not a big part of your life, you have fallen under the bus of ageism and missing out on the best of aging. And whoever told you that flying is impossible was certainly wrong, in two ways! 🪂☀️ #aging #agingwithattitude #aginglikefinewine #agefreely #goldenyears #embraceyourage #limitless #innerfreedom

Aging s*cks? Nah, I’m just getting started 🤓🔥 Wanna know more? Check out my TEDx Talk – link in bio! 🎤✨ #agefreely #ageing #agepositive #unstoppable #tedxtalks #tedxspeaker

Turns out, the “rules” about how we should age, act, and look were written by people trying to sell us something. I’m done buying it. Literally and figuratively. The more noise I drop, the opinions, the fake standards, the pressure, the more space there is for what’s real. And it’s lighter here. Freer. Like the hummingbird, sipping freely from whatever life offers, no permission required. #ageingfreely #authenticaging #liveyourtruth #age #livefully #healthylifestyle

This poem speaks to me and I am a Kim Rosen fan! Does it speak to you? Letter to Myself at Twenty-One Rosemerry Whatola Trommer 
What is it that shines through all this withering?
—Kim Rosen, “Grand Finale”
 
 
You would be embarrassed of my body.
You would never believe contentment
is possible with a belly this soft
and legs this thick, but sweetheart,
I promise you I love being alive
in this time-ripened body that still
carries me into the garden to plant
snap peas, this body that cradles
my grown girls, that explores
the familiar terrain of my husband,
that walks through spruce forests and thrills
at the scent of evergreen and rain.
It is so much easier now to be gentle
with myself, even easy to be gentle with you.
Easy to forgive you for thinking you needed
to starve these bones. The irony is
you never felt beautiful, did you, and now,
when I am so far from your ideal,
I’ve never felt more lovely—
which is to say there is something
inside, a radiance, that beacons through
the crumbling walls of the body,
and the real beauty is being in service
to that shine, becoming less and less
a vessel and more and more that light.

Here is my flower photo that I took this morning. I'm looking forward to seeing yours!

An Exercise In Aging Freely with Impermanence #tedxtalks #agingfreely #impermanence #

This is what wrinkles look like on a flower, they are as beautiful on you! Open to wrinkles as something other than ugly. It’s a trip to break free from conditioning, it frees us each time we do it.

Earlier today, I posted a flower photo and my copy was about withering, the exquisite beauty of withering. Here is the human version of my flower photo. What life, what beauty, what participation. Withering full of life. Watch the interview it’s fantastic. Find yourself in this one example…

This is what withering looks like. When there is no comparison there is only beauty.

Watch my TEDx Talk, it’s live on March 22nd. So if your here in Ajijic, come support me and the line up of speakers. To learn more and to purchase tickets https://ted.com/tedx/events/58995 This is a dream come true for me!!!!!! #agingfreely #tedxtalks #impermanence #proaging

Working on refining my TEDx talk this morning. What I had was ok, pretty mental, it lacked aliveness. Right after I rewrote it, I moved my IPAD off my lap and kicked my hands and feet up in the air, out of happiness and being proud of myself. An actual example of what I just rewrote! I would love to hear how this applies to you? Yes, aging can bring the profound inner experiences we've yearned for: the tender self-love that lets you look in the mirror and smile at every wrinkle, the deep acceptance that allows you to let go of long held self judgments, and the kind of joy that holds you steady in both exquisite and heartbreaking moments. It’s a time of wisdom that lets you see patterns in life with clarity, contentment in savoring a quiet sunrise, and renewed playfulness when you laugh so hard you can’t catch your breath. This transformation enriches our emotional and mental lives, shifting how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world, like finally learning the secret to a beautiful, well-lived life. I call this Aging Freely. Wanna age freely?

#agingfreely #proaging #agepositive

We are Resilient! Resilience isn’t something we need to fear we lack—it’s something we’ve already proven we have. We’re still here. We’ve survived losses and challenges we once thought unendurable. When we truly own our resilience, we see that those challenges didn’t just break us—they shaped and deepened us. We can relax into life, less afraid of what’s ahead. And when we look around, we see millions of others who’ve lived through their own unendurable losses. This shared humanity connects us, reminding us that we’re in this together. By sharing our stories, we can show younger generations that resilience grows through life’s trials, offering us cherished gifts like kindness, vulnerability, and compassion.

Comparison or Gratitude?#agingfreely #proaging #embraceaging #impermanence

What are your thoughts about aging? It sounds simple, but it’s not. It’s tangled, messy, and loaded—because most of us don’t think about aging from our own experience. So, what comes up for you?    •   Are you scared?    •   Excited?    •   Disgusted?    •   Maybe looking forward to it? Are you afraid you’ll lose identities you love? That your looks will betray you? Or maybe you think aging will be the best time of your life. Are you worried you won’t be wanted anymore? Afraid you’ll age like your parents or grandparents? Now, here’s the real question: What if you had never heard anything negative about aging? How might you treat yourself differently? How might you live differently? For me, I wouldn’t be afraid of it. I wouldn’t feel like my physical changes were a betrayal or that my time was up. I might: 🌱 Finally plant that garden I’ve been dreaming of. 🏡 Gather some friends to downsize and live together. ✨ Follow this wild passion of mine to age freely and see where it takes me. What about you? How would you live differently? #AgingFreely #EmbraceAging #Impermanence #AgePositive #ProAging

Resilience: Owning Our Strength Resilience isn’t something we need to fear we might not have—like we did when we were younger. It’s something we’ve already proven we have. We’re still here. We’ve lived through things we thought we couldn’t survive: the death of loved ones, the loss of relationships, identities, work, financial security, or childhood traumas, to name a few. By now, we’re built out of strength we didn’t even know was possible. And when we own our resilience—truly, fully own it—we see that our challenges didn’t just wipe us out for a while; they shaped us, deepened us, and made us real. Owning our resilience lets us relax more into life. We don’t have to be as afraid of the other shoe dropping. We can turn and look in any direction, and there are millions upon millions of people who’ve also lived through unendurable loss. This shared experience connects us and reminds us: we’re in this together. And here’s where we can give back: by sharing our stories and hard-earned strength with younger generations. They may not yet know how resilient they are, but we can remind them—strength is built through life’s challenges. Even the hardest moments can give us our most cherished qualities: kindness, vulnerability, compassion, and forgiveness. Resilience at our age is about knowing: We’ve faced the hardest of times before. We’ll face them again. And each time, our humanity deepens. What is one thing about yourself that you really appreciate that came from the really hard stuff you lived through?

Trying this again. The last one I posted got cut off midway, as I said I'm just learning how to do this so thank you for bearing with me.

Question of the day! How do you resist aging? Imagine what not resisting would be like. Take a moment and let yourself feel into your body what it would feel like to not resist ageing.

The purpose of Aging Freely is to belong to life, to trust life, to be with life, to be oneself—the opposite of fighting life, trying to change life, holding back time, fighting time, believing that something is wrong with us, that we no longer “got it” or shouldn’t “have it.” To Age Freely is to call bullshit on no dreams, no curiosity, no inspiration, no sense of agency, no playfulness, no risks, no deep appreciation for aging, and the absurd obsession with wrinkles, as if no lines on our faces could ever capture the depth and beauty of a life fully lived.

I wanna look my age!

More butterfly watching means more slowing down means more joy.

We humans over 60 have an amazing and expanded capacity to reflect—to turn our attention from one place to another, backwards and forwards in time, to fantasize, and, most importantly, to choose, as our cognitive functions become more integrated. Yes, to choose where our attention is placed, even though at times it may feel choice-less, as if we’re victims of our minds. How delicious this capacity to reflect, to direct our thinking, to turn our attention inward, to examine our innermost heart, to engage in self-discussion, to be stilled by an “ah-ha,” to gain fresh perspectives on long-held beliefs, to let go, and to be open to new possibilities. Have you noticed the difference from when you were younger?

My audition video for TEDx. I heard back yesterday I was accepted!!!! Truly, truly a dream come true.

These flowers, way past when most would throw them out, remind me of the beauty of impermanence. A poem I wrote. This Impermanence This impermanence, so painful, So much loss, fear, grieving love. Yet, it holds a hidden wonder, A beauty found in the ebb and flow. Like phosphorescence or an acid trip, It reveals the aliveness of all. Comings and goings, a dance of existence, Each moment a fleeting work of art. The sky that holds the midnight fireworks, A canvas for brilliance and glow. Each snowflake's crystal form, unique and brief, Melting into the cycle of life's flow. In this brief time, our lives unfold, A fleeting glimpse of radiant light. In love with impermanence itself, We awaken to the wonder of our time. Embracing life in death's embrace, We discover a love that illuminates, An awakening to the beauty of all that is, This impermanence, a gift, a radiant light.

When we are young, in our teens and early twenties, people are always curious about our future: What do you want to be when you grow up? What’s important to you? What kind of career do you want? Do you want to get married? What are your dreams and passions? But when we turn 60, these questions seem to fade away. Rarely do people inquire about our next chapter, our passions, or how we want to live our lives at this stage. Isn’t it ironic that life gets shorter, yet the questions about our dreams and aspirations diminish? If we started asking older adults what’s important to them, how they want to spend their time, and what they want to experience in this new chapter of their lives, I believe we would witness a significant shift in ageism. The focus would transition from youth to experience, from assuming that the best years are behind us to recognizing that life is still full of possibilities, regardless of our age. This shift would not only change the way we view older adults but also how they view themselves. I am curious, would this make a difference to you and your approach to aging?

Is life a miracle or what?

This mornings sunrise. This poem captures the light that is always here. How the Light Comes I cannot tell you how the light comes. What I know is that it is more ancient than imagining. That it travels across an astounding expanse to reach us. That it loves searching out what is hidden, what is lost, what is forgotten or in peril or in pain. That it has a fondness for the body, for finding its way toward flesh, for tracing the edges of form, for shining forth through the eye, the hand, the heart. I cannot tell you how the light comes, but that it does. That it will. That it works its way into the deepest dark that enfolds you, though it may seem long ages in coming or arrive in a shape you did not foresee. And so may we this day turn ourselves toward it. May we lift our faces to let it find us. May we bend our bodies to follow the arc it makes. May we open and open more and open still to the blessed light that comes. by Jan Richardson

Sometimes, pausing is the most helpful thing we can do for our world. To stop for a moment contributing our opinions in a world needing freshness.

Really not beautiful! Time to question agism. We need to be free, to be beautiful all way through,this short life, this miracle of life.

Life is beautiful in all it’s stages

Sometimes snapping a photo of a flower comes out surprisingly! Beautiful.

The death bells are tolling in the local church as I sit down to write. This day, my new friends are “putting down” their four legged family member. I imagine them all cuddling in this very moment, looking eye to eye, heart to heart, soaking in the last moments of bodily love. Today, also, my dear dear friend and at one time lover/partner can pick up his “medication” to end his life after the legal waiting period. The cancer has claimed him as it’s own. He is spending his last days with his children and grandchildren on the California coast where we once traveled, making love and fallowing the curves of the coastline and the waves as they rolled in. He sends me photos of them all, smiles, standing together and the little ones sitting in grandpa’s lap. The ocean has been his place, swimming, diving, caring for it and now holding him and his family as they say goodbye. As Ram Dass said, “We’re all just walking each other home.” A photo he took many years ago in South Africa.

“Old age is an intensely exciting time of exploration and return, of adventure and spiritual discovery,” Joseph Chilton Pearce says. “If this is old age, give me more of it! Sure, the body starts getting tired and breaks down, but the mind gets sharper and sharper. The real challenge of old age is to risk all habitual frames of reference and to open the mind to another field of possibility that lies beyond the physical. Having gained a foothold in the inner world, we then can encounter death with calm anticipation rather than horrifying fear.” From the book, Ageing to Sageing

This is fun, I went to take a photo of this small flower arrangement, and there I was. I also love, that this arrangement captures these flowers at different stages of life. All are beautiful!

Agefulness=A feeling of being a child, a young person, an adult, middle aged and old - all at once! What abundance! What access!

Summer Rain

Could it be so easy, to walk out into our gardens and look closely, could it be so easy to see beauty, to feel awe?

Morning sunlight shining through a crystal bringing awareness of a short moment of beauty’s gift, a free moment with nothing else happening. Enjoy your short moments today.

I wonder if we’re the same age? You know how they figure out dog years to human years. I wonder if I’m the same age as this flower?

“I love living. I love that I’m alive to love my age. There are many people who went to bed just as I did yesterday evening and didn’t wake this morning. I love and feel very blessed that I did.” ~Maya Angelou

“The compensation of growing old is that the passions remain as strong as ever, but one has gained—at last!—The power which adds the supreme flavor to existence, —the power of taking hold of experience, of turning it around, slowly, in the light.” Virginia Woolf from Mrs. Dalloway

We are fragile, tender beings, worried and in fear so much of the time, hurting ourselves and others, failing more than we succeed, driven by things that don't matter, we do this together, its part of being human. We are carriers of awe, seers of beauty, compassion is inherent, joy is our nature, grieving is holy, following our precious longings brings us to inner peace and love.

One cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be of little importance in the evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie.” C. G. Jung

The other day I was sitting across from my 91 year old client. She was wearing a sleeveless shirt. Her arms and hands fully exposed. I found myself falling into reverence for the beauty of her arms and hands. I found myself looking forward, if lucky to live that long, to the translucent folds that began at her shoulders and rippled to her finger tips wishing them to be my own. Her hands reminded me of my mothers at my clients age, so beautiful with all the veins standing out, the fingers slightly crooked from arthritis, holding my hand, feeling love in that handholding. I don’t like my drooping cellulite upper arms but now I see what they are becoming and I have new appreciation for these fledgling wings of transparency, folds of age and great beauty.

Looking with fresh eyes, the view is different every time.

Some mornings are just beautiful!

Were conditioned to hate visible aging. The core of “fixing” our faces is it’s not ok, to have wrinkles and sagging skin. Why? Were afraid, we are herd animals. Were not stupid, we can see that with wrinkles and sagging skin, our value is diminished, our love ability is affected. If straight, our men might leave us. Were invisible. By the way invisibility is very cool, we just get to be us, it’s a super power. No one to impress, no one to defer to, no approval needed. Instead, more space to live life truly from what we discover for ourselves. Living life from the inside out is the cool aging gig.

The pace of life, I so appreciate !

“Aging is not a problem to be fixed or a disease to be cured. It is a natural, powerful, lifelong process that unites us all.” Ashton Applewhite

You want to scare the heck out of yourself, ask yourself what you believe about aging? Let’s blow up agism, it's harming us and everyone who is currently young.

Stop. Cloud life calling

Cuddling